MƆ KO ni agbo ashi lɛ ŋma akɛ: “Ákɛ gbekɛ ni yɔɔ England lɛ, atsɔɔ mi akɛ mikajie mihenumɔi akpo yɛ gbɔmɛi ahiɛ. Minyɛɔ mikaiɔ mitsɛ, ni tsutsu ko lɛ eji asraafonyo lɛ, ni efee ehiɛ kpɛŋŋ kɛmiikɛɛ mi akɛ, ‘Kaafo!’ beni sane ko edɔ mi lɛ. Minyɛɛɛ makai akɛ minyɛ shɔ wɔnaa loo efua mi loo minyɛmimɛi bibii lɛ ateŋ mɔ ko (no mli lɛ wɔyi ejwɛ). Mina mitsɛ gbele beni miye afii 56. Minu he akɛ milaaje nɔ ko wulu diɛŋtsɛ. Ni kɛlɛ, kɛjɛ shishijee lɛ, minyɛɛɛ mafo.”

Yɛ maji loo hiŋmɛigbelemɔi komɛi amli lɛ, gbɔmɛi jieɔ amɛhenumɔi akpo yɛ faŋŋ mli. Mɛi krokomɛi leɔ bɔ ni amɛnuɔ nii ahe amɛhaa kɛ́ amɛmii eshɛ amɛhe loo amɛbɛ miishɛɛ. Shi yɛ gbɛ kroko nɔ lɛ, yɛ je lɛŋ hei komɛi, titri lɛ yɛ Europa kooyigbɛ kɛ Britain nɛkɛ lɛ, atsɔse gbɔmɛi, titri lɛ hii, koni amɛkɛ amɛhenumɔi atée, amɛtsimɔ amɛkanyamɔi anɔ, amɛfee dioo ni amɛkpokpooo yɛ haomɔ shishi, ni amɛkajie amɛhenumɔi akpo yɛ faŋŋ mli. Shi kɛ́ mɔ ko ni osumɔɔ lɛ gbo lɛ, ani ejaaa akɛ ooojie awerɛho ni oyeɔ lɛ kpo yɛ gbɛ ko nɔ? Mɛni Biblia lɛ kɛɔ?

Hebribii ni jɛ Mediterranean bokagbɛ niiaŋ ŋma Biblia lɛ, ni amɛji gbɔmɛi ni jieɔ amɛhenumɔi akpo amɛtsɔɔ. Gbɔmɛi ni jie awerɛho ni amɛyeɔ lɛ kpo yɛ faŋŋ mli lɛ ahe nɔkwɛmɔnii babaoo yɛ mli. Maŋtsɛ David fo yɛ ebinuu Amnon ni agbe lɛ lɛ hewɔ. Yɛ anɔkwale mli lɛ, “maŋtsɛ lɛ . . . fo aahu.” (2 Samuel 13:28-39) Eye awerɛho yɛ ebinuu Absalom kutumpɔfo lɛ ni ka maŋtsɛyeli lɛ shɔ̃mɔ lɛ po gbele he. Biblia mli sane lɛ kɛɔ wɔ akɛ: “Ni maŋtsɛ [David] jijaa, ni ekwɔ kɛtee pia ni yɔɔ agbó lɛ yiteŋ lɛ mli ni efo; ni beni eyaa lɛ, nɛkɛ ekɛɛ: Mibi Absalom, mibi! Mibi Absalom! miná ni kulɛ mi moŋ migbo yɛ onajiaŋ, Absalom, mibi, mibi!” (2 Samuel 19:1) David fo tamɔ bɔ ni tsɛ fɛɛ tsɛ aaafee. Ni kwɛ shii abɔ ni fɔlɔi esumɔ akɛ amɛ moŋ amɛgboi yɛ amɛbii anajiaŋ! Etamɔ nɔ ni ejeee adebɔɔ naa nii akɛ gbekɛ aaatsɔ hiɛ agbo ashi efɔlɔi.

Te Yesu fee enii yɛ enaanyo Lazaro gbele lɛ he eha tɛŋŋ? Efo beni ebɛŋkɛ gbonyobu lɛ he lɛ. (Yohane 11:30-38) Yɛ sɛɛ mli lɛ, Maria Magdaleena fo beni ebɛŋkɛ Yesu gbonyobu lɛ he lɛ. (Yohane 20:11-16) Eji anɔkwale akɛ, Kristofonyo ni nuɔ Biblia mli gbohiiashitee he hiɛnɔkamɔ lɛ shishi lɛ yeee awerɛho aahu ni ehiii lɛ kpatamɔ, taakɛ mɛi  ni bɛ Biblia shishitoo ni mli ka shi faŋŋ kɛha amɛtsɔɔmɔ ni kɔɔ shihilɛ mli ni gbohii lɛ yɔɔ lɛ he lɛ feɔ lɛ. Shi ákɛ adesa ni yɔɔ henumɔi lɛ, anɔkwa Kristofonyo, ni yɔɔ gbohiiashitee he hiɛnɔkamɔ lɛ po, yeɔ awerɛho ni efóɔ yɛ esuɔlɔ gbele hewɔ.​—1 Tesalonikabii 4:13, 14.

Shi bɔ ni wɔfeɔ wɔnii wɔhaa ŋmɛnɛ lɛ hu? Ani onaa akɛ ewa loo efeɔ bo hiɛgbele akɛ ooojie ohenumɔi akpo? Mɛni ji nɔ ni ŋaawolɔi jieɔ yi? Bei pii lɛ, amɛ ŋmɛnɛŋmɛnɛ beaŋ susumɔi lɛ jieɔ Biblia mli blema nilee ni jɛ mumɔŋ lɛ nɔŋŋ kpo. Amɛkɛɔ akɛ esa akɛ wɔjie wɔ awerɛho kpo, shi jeee ni wɔtsimɔ naa. Enɛ haa wɔkaiɔ hii anɔkwafoi ni hi shi blema lɛ, tamɔ Hiob, David, kɛ Yeremia, ni anaa amɛ awerɛhoyeli wiemɔi yɛ Biblia lɛ mli lɛ. Eka shi faŋŋ akɛ amɛtsimɔɔɔ amɛhenumɔi lɛ anaa. No hewɔ lɛ, nilee bɛ mli akɛ oootsi ohe kɛaajɛ gbɔmɛi ahe. (Abɛi 18:1) Ajieɔ yaafo kpo yɛ gbɛ̀i srɔtoi anɔ yɛ maji loo hiŋmɛigbelemɔi srɔtoi amli,  ni no hu damɔ jamɔ mli hemɔkɛyelii ni yɔɔ lɛ anɔ. *

Shi kɛ́ onuɔ he akɛ esa akɛ ofo hu? Eji adesai abɔɔ su akɛ afo. Kaimɔ nɔ ni ba beni Lazaro gbo lɛ ekoŋŋ okwɛ, beni Yesu ‘hũŋ yɛ emumɔ mli ni efo’ lɛ. (Yohane 11:33, 35) Yesu kɛ enɛ feemɔ tsɔɔ akɛ yaafo ji nifeemɔ ni akɛkpeeɔ suɔlɔ ko gbele naa.

Anne, ni ji nyɛ ko ni SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) gbe ebi fufɔoo Rachel lɛ sane lɛ fiɔ enɛ sɛɛ. Ewu wie akɛ: “Nɔ ni yɔɔ naakpɛɛ ji akɛ, mikɛ Anne fɛɛ fooo yɛ yarafeemɔ lɛ shishi. Mɔ fɛɛ mɔ miifo.” Kɛkɛ ni Anne ha hetoo akɛ: “Hɛɛ, shi mifo babaoo momo kɛha wɔyi enyɔ lɛ fɛɛ. Misusuɔ akɛ sane lɛ bote mimli waa yɛ oshara ni ba lɛ sɛɛ otsii fioo ko, beni gbi ko lɛ eshwɛ mikome yɛ shia lɛ mli lɛ. Mifo aahu gbi muu lɛ fɛɛ. Shi miheɔ miyeɔ akɛ fo ni mifo gbi muu lɛ fɛɛ lɛ ye ebua mi. Minu he akɛ ehi kɛha mi. Esa akɛ mafo mibi fufɔoo ni egbo lɛ. Miheɔ miyeɔ diɛŋtsɛ akɛ esa akɛ aŋmɛ gbɛ koni mɛi ni yeɔ awerɛho lɛ afo. Eyɛ mli akɛ nɔ ni mɛi krokomɛi fɔɔ kɛɛmɔ ji, ‘Kaafo’ moŋ, shi no yeee ebuaaa kwraa.”

Te mɛi komɛi efee amɛnii amɛha tɛŋŋ beni amɛsuɔlɔ ko gbele ha amɛfee shwɛm lɛ? Ákɛ nɔkwɛmɔnɔ lɛ, susumɔ Juanita he okwɛ. Ele bɔ ni anuɔ he ahaa kɛ́ mɔ ko bi gbo. Emusu esharake shii enumɔ. Ni agbɛnɛ eŋɔ hɔ ekoŋŋ. No hewɔ lɛ beni oshara ni ekɛ kar ko ná ha eyaje helatsamɔhe lɛ, ehao ni anu lɛ shishi. Otsii enyɔ sɛɛ lɛ, ebɔi kɔ̃ɔmɔ trukaa​—ni ebe shɛko. No sɛɛ etsɛɛ kwraa ni afɔ Vanessa bibioo​—etsii fioo fe nsɛni tɛi enyɔ pɛ. Juanita kaiɔ akɛ ewie akɛ, “Mimii shɛ mihe waa, agbɛnɛ mitsɔ nyɛ!”

Shi emiishɛɛ lɛ sɛɛ etsɛɛɛ. Gbii ejwɛ sɛɛ lɛ Vanessa gbo. Juanita wie akɛ: “Minu he akɛ mifee shwɛm. Ashɔ̃ nyɛ ni miji lɛ kɛjɛ midɛŋ. Minu he akɛ mishɛɛɛ. Eji dɔlɛ sane akɛ wɔɔba shia ni wɔbote tsu  ni wɔsaa mli wɔha Vanessa lɛ mli, ni wɔkwɛ kamiisaa atadei bibii ni mihe miha lɛ lɛ. Mitee nɔ mikai efɔmɔ be lɛ yɛ nyɔji enyɔ ni nyiɛ sɛɛ lɛ fɛɛ mli. Misumɔɔɔ ni mikɛ mɔ ko mɔ ko abɔ dɔŋŋ.”

Ani eji nifeemɔ ni yɔɔ keketee tsɔ? Ebaafee nɔ ni wa akɛ mɛi krokomɛi aaanu shishi, shi mɛi ni tamɔ Juanita, ni amɛtsɔ shihilɛ ni tamɔ nɛkɛ mli lɛ tsɔɔ mli akɛ amɛfoɔ amɛhaa amɛbi lɛ tamɔ bɔ ni amɛbaafee amɛha mɔ ni ehi shi yɛ be kpalaŋŋ mli lɛ nɔŋŋ. Amɛkɛɔ akɛ, dani aaafɔ gbekɛ ko po lɛ, no mli lɛ efɔlɔi sumɔɔ lɛ momo. Ekomefeemɔ kpaa krɛdɛɛ ko ebakã ekɛ nyɛ lɛ teŋ. Kɛ nakai gbekɛ lɛ gbo lɛ, nyɛ lɛ nuɔ he akɛ gbɔmɔ diɛŋtsɛ amɛlaaje lɛ. Ni enɛ ji nɔ ni ehe hiaa ni mɛi krokomɛi anu shishi.

Nyɛ kroko hu tsɔɔ bɔ ni enu he eha beni akɛɛ lɛ akɛ ebinuu ni eye afii ekpaa lɛ egbo trukaa yɛ tsui hela ko ni ená beni ahiɛ lɛ hɔ lɛ hewɔ lɛ. “Mitsɔ nifeemɔi srɔtoi amli​—mifee shikpilikpii, miheee miyeee, minu he akɛ miyeɔ fɔ, ni mimli fu miwu kɛ datrɛfonyo lɛ akɛni eyooo shihilɛ ni hiɛdɔɔ yɔɔ mli ni gbekɛ lɛ yɔɔ mli lɛ hewɔ.”

Mlifu baanyɛ afee yaafo loo awerɛho he okadi kroko. Ekolɛ mɛi amli baafu datrɛfoi loo helatsɛmɛi akwɛlɔi, ní aanu he akɛ kulɛ esa akɛ amɛfee babaoo yɛ mɔ ni egbo lɛ kwɛmɔ mli. Aloo ekolɛ mɛi amli baafu nanemɛi kɛ wekumɛi, ní etamɔ nɔ ni amɛkɛɛ loo amɛfee nibii ni ejaaa lɛ. Mɛi komɛi amli fuɔ mɔ ni egbo lɛ po akɛni ekwɛɛɛ lɛ diɛŋtsɛ egbɔmɔtsoŋ hewalɛnamɔ nɔ jogbaŋŋ lɛ hewɔ. Stella wie akɛ: “Mikaiɔ bɔ ni mimli fu miwu waa ejaakɛ mile akɛ kulɛ nibii batamɔŋ nɛkɛ. Ehe eye waa, shi eku ehiɛ eshwie datrɛfonyo lɛ kɔkɔbɔi lɛ anɔ.” Ni bei komɛi lɛ, mɛi amli fuɔ mɔ ni egbo lɛ yɛ jatsũi ni egbele kɛbaaba abatere mɛi ni eshi yɛ esɛɛ lɛ hewɔ.

Mɛi komɛi nuɔ tɔmɔ he yɛ mlifu hewɔ​—ni ji akɛ, amɛbaabu amɛhe fɔ ejaakɛ amɛmli efu. Mɛi krokomɛi shwaa amɛhe yɛ amɛsuɔlɔ lɛ gbele hewɔ. Amɛkɛɔ amɛ diɛŋtsɛ amɛhe akɛ, “eji miha eyana datrɛfonyo lɛ mra kulɛ,” aloo “eji miha eyana datrɛfonyo kroko kulɛ,” aloo “eji miha ekwɛ egbɔmɔtsoŋ hewalɛnamɔ nɔ jogbaŋŋ kulɛ, egboŋ.”

Yɛ mɛi krokomɛi agbɛfaŋ lɛ, tɔmɔ lɛ tekeɔ enɛ, titri lɛ kɛ́ amɛsuɔlɔ lɛ gbo trukaa, ni amɛkpaaa  gbɛ. Amɛjeɔ shishi amɛkaiɔ be mli ni amɛmli fu mɔ ni egbo lɛ loo amɛkɛ lɛ je ŋwane lɛ. Aloo ekolɛ amɛbaanu he akɛ amɛfeee bɔ ni esa akɛ amɛfee lɛ fɛɛ amɛhaaa mɔ ni egbo lɛ.

Awerɛho ni nyɛmɛi pii yeɔ yɛ be kakadaŋŋ mli lɛ fiɔ nɔ ni ehe nilelɔi babaoo wieɔ yɛ he lɛ sɛɛ, ákɛ mɛi pii nuɔ he akɛ, bi gbele feɔ tamɔ nɔ ko ni elaaje ni anaaa dɔŋŋ yɛ fɔlɔi lɛ ashihilɛ mli, titri lɛ yɛ nyɛ lɛ shihilɛ mli.

Gbalashihilɛ mli hefatalɔ gbele hu ji nɔ ni yeɔ awui waa, titri kɛ́ mɛi enyɔ lɛ fɛɛ kɛ miishɛɛ hi shi yɛ he kome. Ebaanyɛ efee nɔ ni kɛ amɛshihilɛ gbɛ ni amɛ fɛɛ amɛná mli ŋɔɔmɔ yɛ gbɛfaa mli, nitsumɔ mli, hiɛtserɛjiemɔ mli, kɛ he ni akɛfɔɔ he nɔ lɛ baa naagbee.

Eunice tsɔɔ nɔ ni ba beni tsui hela gbe ewu trukaa lɛ mli. “Mifee shikpilikpii yɛ henumɔŋ yɛ klɛŋklɛŋ otsi lɛ mli, tamɔ nɔ ni migbɔmɔtso lɛ ekpa nitsumɔ. Minyɛɛɛ manu nɔ ko ŋɔɔmɔ loo nɔ ko fũ. Ni kɛlɛ mijwɛŋmɔ tee nɔ ehi shi tamɔ nɔ ni nɔ ko esako he kwraa. Akɛni mihi miwu lɛ masɛi yɛ be mli ni abɔɔ mɔdɛŋ ni ebɔi mumɔ ekoŋŋ kɛ CPR kɛ tsofafeemɔ lɛ hewɔ lɛ, mikɛ nifeemɔi ni bei  pii lɛ mɛi kɛtsɔɔ akɛ akpɛlɛɛɛ gbele nɔ lɛ tsuuu nii. Shi kɛlɛ mihao waa, tamɔ nɔ ni miina ni kar ko ejɛ gɔŋ ko nɔ eeba ebagbee shi ni minyɛɛɛ nɔ ko mafee yɛ he.”

Ani efo? “Hɛɛ, mifo, titri lɛ beni mikane miishɛjemɔ woji ohai abɔ ni minine shɛ nɔ lɛ. Miwo yara yɛ eko fɛɛ eko he. Eye ebua mi ni minyɛ mikpee nɔ ni baaba yɛ gbi lɛ mli lɛ naa. Shi nɔ ko nɔ ko nyɛɛɛ aye abua mi beni abiɔ mi shii abɔ akɛ te miyɔɔ tɛŋŋ lɛ. Eka shi faŋŋ akɛ, no mli lɛ mihao waa ni mileee nɔ ni mafee.”

Mɛni ye ebua Eunice ni enyɛ ehi shi yɛ be mli ni eyeɔ awerɛho lɛ? Ekɛɔ akɛ: “Mikpɛ miyiŋ akɛ maya nɔ mahi shi, ni miyooo po akɛ mifee nakai. Shi, nɔ ni dɔɔ mi lolo ji, kɛ́ mikai akɛ miwu ni sumɔɔ wala babaoo lɛ bɛ biɛ ni eeena mli ŋɔɔmɔ lɛ.”

Mɛi ni ŋma wolo, Leavetaking​—When and How to Say Goodbye lɛ woɔ ŋaa akɛ: “Kaaha mɛi krokomɛi miitsɔɔ bo nɔ ni esa akɛ ofee loo bɔ ni esa akɛ onu nii ahe oha. Esoro nɔ ni awerɛho loo yaafo tsuɔ yɛ mɔ fɛɛ mɔ nɔ. Mɛi krokomɛi baasusu​—ni amɛha ole akɛ amɛsusuɔ​—akɛ ooye awerɛho tsɔ loo oyeee awerɛho bɔ ni sa. Okɛke amɛ ni oha ohiɛ akpa nɔ. Kɛ omia ohiɛ okɛ ohe wo shihilɛ ko ni mɛi krokomɛi efo amɛfɔ shi amɛha bo lɛ mli loo nɔ ni gbɔmɛi efo amɛfɔ shi mli lɛ, otsĩɔ henumɔ ni oooná loo eeeba onɔ ekoŋŋ lɛ naa.”

Kɛlɛ, gbɔmɛi srɔtoi tsuɔ amɛ awerɛho he nii yɛ gbɛi srɔtoi anɔ. Wɔbɔɔɔ mɔdɛŋ akɛ wɔɔtsɔɔ akɛ gbɛ ko yɛ kɛ̃ ni hi fe ekrokomɛi fɛɛ kɛha mɔ fɛɛ mɔ. Shi, oshara baa kɛ́ ajeee shihilɛ ni tamɔ nɛkɛ mli, kɛ́ mɔ ni yeɔ awerɛho lɛ nyɛɛɛ ayoo bɔ ni shihilɛ lɛ ji loo eyɔɔ diɛŋtsɛ ni eye ehe nɔ lɛ. No lɛ yelikɛbuamɔ ni jɛ nanemɛi musuŋtsɔlɔi aŋɔɔ ahe baahia lɛ. Biblia lɛ kɛɔ akɛ: “Naanyo sumɔɔ mɔ bei fɛɛ mli, ni afɔ lɛ akɛ nyɛmi ha haomɔ be.” No hewɔ lɛ kaashe gbeyei akɛ ooobi yelikɛbuamɔ, ni owie, ni ofo hu.​—Abɛi 17:17.

Nɔ ni afeɔ yɛ gbele he ji awerɛho ni ayeɔ, ni ejeee tɔmɔ akɛ mɛi krokomɛi aaana akɛ ooye awerɛho. Shi ehe miihia ni aha sanebimɔi krokomɛi ahetoo: ‘Te mafee tɛŋŋ ni mikɛ miwerɛho lɛ ahi shi? Ani eji adesai asu akɛ amɛaanu fɔyeli kɛ mlifu he? Te esa akɛ matsu henumɔi nɛɛ ahe nii maha tɛŋŋ? Mɛni baanyɛ aye abua mi koni manyɛ madamɔ nɔ ni milaaje lɛ kɛ awerɛhoyeli lɛ naa?’ Fã ni nyiɛ sɛɛ lɛ baaha sanebimɔi nɛɛ kɛ ekrokomɛi ahetoo.