“Ndiyonwaba xa ndikunye nabahlobo bam, ibe kunzima ukuzenzela abanye.”​—UAlan.

“Ndinabahlobo abambalwa, ibe ndiyayithanda loo nto. Andingomntu uthanda ukuthetha nabantu endingabaziyo.”​—USara.

Ngaba nawe ufana noAlan noSara? Ngaba unabahlobo abasenyongweni ibe kunzima kuwe ukuzenzela abatsha?

Ukuba kunjalo, eli nqaku liza kukunceda!

•  Ingxaki yokuba nabahlobo abathile

•  Oko unokukwenza

•  Oko kuthethwa lolunye ulutsha

Akukho nto imbi ngokuba nabahlobo abathile abasenyongweni. Ukuba nabahlobo abanjalo kukwenza uzive unabantu abakwaziyo nabakwamkela ngale ndlela uyiyo​—abazaziyo izinto onobuthathaka kuzo.

“Kumnandi ukuthandwa nokuba nabahlobo. Xa usemtsha, yiloo nto kanye oyifunayo.”​—UKaren, ona-19.

Ngaba ubusazi?’ Abapostile abayi-12 babengabanye babahlobo bakaYesu, kodwa nguPetros, uYakobi noYohane ababesondele kakhulu kuye.​—Marko 9:2; Luka 8:51.

Kodwa ke, ukuba neqela elinye elithile labahlobo​—nokungazenzeli abanye​—kunokubangela iingxaki. Ngokomzekelo:

• Kunokukuphosanisa nabantu abanokuba ngabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni.

  “Ukuba nabahlobo abafana nawe kuphela, kunokukuvalela ithuba lokufunda izinto ezintsha​—nokudibana nabantu abatsha.”​—UEvan, ona-21.

• Kunokukwenza ubonakale njengomntu ophakamileyo.

  “Ukuba nabahlobo abafana nawe kuphela, kunokukwenza ubonakale ngathi awufuni kuthetha nabanye abantu.”​—USara, ona-17.

• Kunokukwenza nawe untlonte abanye.

  “Kunzima ukuntlonta xa uwedwa, kodwa xa abahlobo bakho bekwenza nakuwe kuba lula kwaye kuyonwabisa.”​—UJames, ona-17.

• Kunokukufaka engxakini ngokukodwa xa ufuna ngamandla ukuzithandisa kwelo qela labahlobo.

  “Ngento nje enye embi eyenziwe ngumntu omnye, bonke abahlobo bayosuleleka.”​—UMartina, ona-17.

• Hlola indlela ophila ngayo.

  Zibuze: ‘Ndifuna ukuphila njani? Ngaba abahlobo bam benza kube nzima okanye kube lula ukuphila ngale ndlela ndiyifunayo? Ngaba ndiza kuqhubeka ndingumhlobo wabo enoba kwenzeka ntoni?’

  Umgaqo weBhayibhile: “Unxulumano olubi lonakalisa imikhwa elungileyo.”​—1 Korinte 15:33.

  “Xa unabahlobo abaphila ngendlela eyahlukileyo kweyakho, uya kuzibhaqa usenza izinto obungenakuzenza.”​—UEllen, ona-14.

• Hlola izinto eziza kuqala.

  Zibuze: ‘Ngaba abahlobo bam ndibathanda kangangokuba ndingenza izinto ezingafanelekanga kuba ndifuna ukuba kunye nabo? Ndiza kwenza ntoni ukuba umhlobo wam wenza into engafanelekanga?’

  Umgaqo weBhayibhile: “Bonke abo ndinomsa ngabo ndiyabohlwaya.”​—ISityhilelo 3:​19.

  “Ukuba omnye kubahlobo bakho ungena engxakini kuba enze into engafanelekanga, xa uthetha ngaloo nto kungabonakala ngokungathi uyamngcatsha.”​—UMelanie, ona-22.

• Zenzele abahlobo abangakumbi.

  Zibuze: ‘Ngaba ayinakundinceda into yokuba ndizenzele abanye abahlobo ndiquke nabanye abantu?’

  Umgaqo weBhayibhile: “Ninyamekela, kungekuphela nje izilangazelelo zobuqu, kodwa kwanezilangazelelo zabanye.”​—Filipi 2:4.

  “Abantwana abangaziwa kangako banokuba neengxaki emakhayeni abo. Kodwa xa ubazi, uya kufumanisa ukuba zikho izinto abakhetheke kuzo.”​—UBrian, ona-19.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: Akukho nto imbi ngokuba nabahlobo abathile abasenyongweni. Kwangaxeshanye, ingakunceda nento yokuzenzela abanye abahlobo. Umgaqo weBhayibhile: “Umphefumlo onesisa uya kutyetyiswa.”​—IMizekeliso 11:25.